Living your ideal life requires more investment than simply writing a few bullet points in a journal or on a manifestation board…
It requires actively reviewing and reflecting on all parts of your life.
And as anyone who’s ever tried, knows self-reflection isn’t easy.
It is the most universally exalted path to internal self-awareness — it encourages personal growth and helps to enrich your life.
Sometimes you need to look inward and ask uncomfortable questions to determine if your life is on the right trajectory.
It’s the only way to understand your feelings and learn important things about yourself, such as….
….Do I even believe the things I say I do? What makes me happy? What have I done in the past that I want to stop or start doing in the future? And are my actions aligned with my values?
Reflection helps to build upon the successful moments and break free from the self-doubt that holds you back from embracing your true potential and living a fulfilled life.
As we move into a new year…
Here are four actions that can put you on the path to living the life you want.
Notice What Went Well In 2017
….and what didn’t.
It’s no secret that as we age time moves at an unprecedented speed. This makes it too easy to let the wins slip by unnoticed — you’re onto the next thing before you can even recount the success you experienced just last week!
But remembering the positive things that happened is beneficial to your well-being. It reminds you that you’re capable of handling challenges and it can help you to see more possibilities for the future.
Taking the time now to look back on the past year is a way to take note of what went well and what didn’t.
During this phase of self-reflection, write things down in a journal so you can visually relive the past 12 months…
Remember…no win is too small….write them all down!
Pay particular attention to how you spent your time…
Did you engage in activities that moved you towards living the life you want, or that moved you farther away from it?
Can you recall feeling joy?
While it’s important to acknowledge the negative, don’t dwell on it.
Rather, use it as a constructive way to note what you don’t want in your life — because knowing what you don’t want is as useful as knowing what you do want.
Introspection, an act of self-awareness that involves thinking about and analyzing your own thoughts and behaviors, is one of the defining characteristics of man versus animal. We are naturally curious about ourselves. We replay our own experiences and actions in the hopes of understanding who and how we are.
Taking the time to meditate on the past year will help you to set intentions for the coming year.
The past is the past, but it’s an effective teacher for the future.
Set Actionable Goals + Define Your Highest Endeavors
Setting actionable goals is an important process for achieving success.
But, before setting a goal, it’s important to understand what that goal represents and how your current behavior will affect the potential outcome of it.
For example, if you aim to have a closer relationship with your kids, but you consistently work long hours, you will most likely be too tired to spend time with them. And the long hours at work will keep you away from important events in their lives.
“In life, people have many goals (e.g. exercise more, be a better spouse, save more money). However, goals often go unrealized because people lack self-awareness…Thus, to improve our chances of reaching our goals, we must remain aware of our current behavior.”
Setting and achieving goals takes real commitment, sacrifice, and often, overcoming big challenges.
But having a clear vision for your life not only enables you to set and achieve goals, it advocates the pursuit of your highest endeavors.
When you are empowered by the why, it’s easier to stick to your goals.
And when your values and vision are clear, it’s easier to determine your actions.
Much like goals a high endeavor is any undertaking worthy of your energy, love and devotion.
It is essential to take stock of your values regularly, and then do whatever you can to align your life with them. Living in harmony with those values creates the fertile environment for happiness and peace of mind…
Some people call this living authentically.
Because when your values and actions are all aligned, you can purposefully set and pursue your goals, realize your highest endeavors and live a fully engaged life.
Engage In Great Companionship
Humans are inherently designed to live in close relationship with each other.
That’s just the way it is.
We need contact with other humans to live long, happy lives — and this is notably more important as we age.
The interactions you have with other people affects the way you feel about yourself and life in general.
Your close relationships influence your happiness and the sense that you are part of a larger community. Being in fellowship with others adds meaning and purpose to your life.
If you feel lonely or uninspired in your daily routine, it is most likely due to a lack of outside influence.
Meaningful relationships help you to feel connected and supported.
They can also influence your level of success in your profession, personal life and relationship with your partner and kids.
Having people around whom you trust, encourage you and support you in your life, is invaluable.
Because when you are inspired, you have the confidence to live your ideal life.
…….A life full of adventure and joy.
Develop A Morning Routine
The one thing almost all high performers have in common is a morning ritual. A strict routine helps them start the day with purpose and sets them up for success.
Creating structure first thing in the morning spills into the rest of your day.
If you’re someone who typically hits the snooze button a few times in the morning, try putting your clock out of reach, so you have to physically get up to turn it off.
Set your clock 20 min before you normally get up and practice a quiet morning routine.
Part of your routine can be to just sit and enjoy five minutes of undisturbed time — it’s the best time to sip your morning coffee or tea.
There’s something special about mornings…
Developing a morning routine is critical to determining the outcome of many other aspects of your life.
It puts you in the right mindset to tackle your day.
Rumi ~ “The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you. Don’t go back to sleep.”
The New Year is commonly considered a time of contemplation.
As you push out the old and embrace the new, it seems an appropriate time to ditch behaviors that aren’t working and encourage the formation of new habits…
…that move you towards living your ideal life.
Making significant change isn’t easy — especially on your own. It’s imperative that you seek help when needed and take serious heed of the need for great companionship.
The people that you surround yourself with can be the catalyst for permanent change.
If you feel stuck in your current situation and you know you aren’t living your ideal life, having an accountability partner is an excellent resource…
Someone who truly cares about your well-being and personal success in life.
If you’re tired of the excuses and want to make meaningful and lasting change, I offer one-on-one high-level accountability coaching.
I will facilitate the changes you wish to make in your life. And help you to have a more meaningful, purpose-driven, existence so you can feel joy and experience adventure in all aspects of life.
Live your ideal life!!
Yours in Adventure,